As women, orgasms can be difficult to come by (pardon the pun) when we’re having sex. According to a University of Chicago study entitled Female Sexual Arousal: Genital Anatomy and Orgasm in Intercourse, men achieve orgasm during intercourse a lot more consistently than do women, and three-fourths of men, but less than a third of women, always have orgasms.
The results of the study, which were published in 2011 in the Journal of Hormones and Behaviour, revealed another interesting point – that the distance between a woman’s clitoris and her vagina influences her ability to regularly experience orgasm solely from penetrative sex. The researchers theorised that, if the distance between your clitoris and your vagina is short, or less than 2.5cm, then climaxing is easier because there’s a greater likelihood that the external part of your clitoris will be stimulated. And because the internal structures of your clitoris are pressing more closely against your vagina, they are more receptive to the sensations of penetrative sex – that is, the movements of your man’s penis in and out of your vagina.
In other words, if you’re the sort who has no trouble climaxing through penetration alone, then you can probably thank your genes. Lucky you. Unfortunately, that isn’t the case for a significant number of women, who often need direct and consistent clitoral stimulation during intercourse in order to hit the Big O.
These five positions are the best for helping you reach your pleasure peak faster:
1. Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.)
Start out in the missionary position, with your legs spread slightly and your man in between your knees. Now get your man to slide upwards towards your head and body, so that your jaw is just resting on his shoulder. His pelvis should be aligned with yours, and his hips, pushed downward, ensuring that the base of his penis is touching your clitoris. From here, he can start moving in and out of you using delicate and sensual rocking movements. As he moves slowly up and down, you should feel his shaft rubbing against your clitoris.
Straddle your man, making sure that your body is perpendicular to his. Now lean back slightly and tuck your feet under his legs. In this stance, deep penetration is guaranteed (always pleasurable!). As you grind yourself down on your man, use one of your free hands to pleasure yourself. This is one of the best positions for a clitoral orgasm, and the grinding motions of your pelvis will result in an earth-shattering orgasm for him.
3. Reverse Cowgirl
Get your man to lie on his back and then straddle him, facing his feet. Now lean forward slightly, resting your hands on his legs. Use firm grinding motions with your pelvis, which will stimulate your clitoris, helping you reach orgasm more easily.
4. Sensual Spooning
This position requires minimal effort and is incredibly intimate. Lie in bed on your side. Part your legs a little, allowing your man to spoon you from behind. As he thrusts in and out of you slowly and sexily, get him to stimulate your clitoris with his free hand.
5. Open & Free
Start in the Reverse Cowgirl position, but instead of leaning forward, slowly lower your body backwards so that your back comes down to rest on your man’s chest. Make sure that his penis is still inside you as you make your way down. Now, as you lay outstretched against his body, you are free to touch your clitoris – or get him to do it!